Thursday, 25 June 2015

Despicable Me

Alhamdullilah, with patience and love, we waited for our baby. With excitement and joy, we welcome Arissa Fathia (Born on 23 June 2015) to our family.

Like most men, I have done macho things all my life. However, I can categorically say that nothing has tested my manhood as much as becoming a dad.I never really grew up until I had a baby.

When I was about to become a father for the first time, other men who’ve already blazed that trail are keen to share their experiences. I get those who tell you it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to them, and those who talk knowledgeably of sleep patterns and bottle-feeding. 

Although a man learns what it means to be a dad from his own father, it’s not until the birth of you that I started the most important journey of my life.

Who would have thought to my surprise, the day I looked in my daughter's eyes that I would find my pride and joy.

All the thoughts in my head of this little girl. I did not know who I was as a man until the moment you were placed inside my hands. And it was at that split moment when you opened your eyes, your true identity was no longer disguised. 

As the lights glistened in your beautiful eyes, Inside I slowly started to cry. I was given an angel from heavens above. The final test as a man, a little girl to love.

I am not ready to be a father yet. I don’t know if anyone is ever truly “ready”. So I ask you now, forgive my mistakes. Understand that my fear is born from not wanting to fail you. But know that I’m here, and I will always be here, no matter what happens.

We love you so much and look forward to a lifetime of wonderful adventures with you.

Saturday, 20 June 2015

The Ugly Malaysians

Let’s be honest, we are all selfish beings, constantly making choices that maximize benefit and minimize harm. But at the same time, we are complex creatures and our selfish or selfless behaviour are often difficult to differentiate.

The world has changed quite a bit in the last century. Modern technology and urban development has all but replaced the "kampung" lifestyle. Although much good can be said about industrial growth and progress, the modernizing of society has also altered people’s way of life. The slow pace of small community living has given way to a more pressured urban lifestyle where people are more focused on their personal goals and objectives. As people focus more on themselves and meeting their personal needs, selfish habits begin to take root in their lives.

There are many reasons why people are selfish. Some people may have been raised in a selfish environment by selfish parents and family. Others may have developed selfish habits due to their experiences or difficult circumstances in their lives.

Today all that matters are ourselves. We have become a selfish, ignorant nation. Now let see the ugly part of Malaysia. How selfish can Malaysian be in their daily life:-

  • While driving, always cut queue anywhere and everywhere you can. If they don't allow you to cut in, go in front of them and block their way, swerve close to them or find a way to bully them. 
  • There is no such thing as first come, first serve. If you see a new cashier open his counter, quickly run from the back of the queue to the new counter so you can beat all the people who have been waiting long before you. 
  • If the person in front of you is taking a really long time, just cut into the queue next to you. If anyone says anything, glare at them and give them dirty looks. 
  • Don't respect others waiting to use public restrooms, just walk straight in past everyone else into the next vacant toilet. 
  • At a restaurant, pretend you didn't see all the customers who are waiting for a table, as soon as someone leaves quickly rush in and seat yourself at that table. Don't worry, the restaurant staff don't dare to say anything and will not chase you away. Just don't make eye contact with any angry customers. 
  • Don't wait for passengers to get off the LRT/Komuter, just push yourself in as fast as you can. 
  • If you see a car with signal light on waiting for a parking space, quickly rush in front and grab the parking space for yourself. 
  • If you can't find a parking space within 10 metres of the mall entrance, just park illegally near the entrance even if it is at a tight corner making it difficult for other cars to take the corner. 
  • Even if there are empty parking spaces a few shops down, just double park in front of the shop you want to go to. Who cares if you block others from getting out, or block the street itself. 
  • Just stop in the middle of the road to let off/ pick up passengers. Wait as long as you need without any consideration for other cars behind you. 
  • Allow your children to make noise, break things, dirty other people's car, throw rubbish everywhere in public, on the streets, into neighbour's house etc, as long as it's not your own house/stuff. 
What has become of our manners and culture of being honest, considerate and tolerant? have we been so duped by the rhetoric of our more bigoted fellow citizens that we have become hatemongers? Or is the pressure of city living so great that everything is seen as a fight for the survival of the fittest, fairness be damned?

I think we have misplaced our moral compass. We have bought so much into the negative talk that we perhaps no longer believe there is any point to being good. 

If only we would all wake up and smell the rotting stench, maybe there will still be hope yet for the wretched state of our nation. If we stop and realise that doing wrong doesn’t make things right, maybe we have a sliver of a chance at correcting the flow of our collective destiny.