Saturday, 29 December 2012

The Proposal

At this moment, I am suddenly feel that I am like Tun Nila in 'Musang Berjanggut' mesmerize with Puspawangi, when she eventually sorted out the bag containing a jumbled up mix of rice, salt, chilli, onions, garlic and spices and was able to cook something out of them

For all his life been waiting for to see a dream coming true. So there he was, try to make it all his own. Alone and soon thought he couldn't change the whole world. For all his life been searching always try to find someone like you.. are everything I never knew I always wanted. You are a my Swiss army knife. It is that little things you do, and you keep pulling out things, and just when you think there couldn't be any more cool things, a new cool thing comes out, and that was you.

I probably will not tell you guys the story about how we met. It might come as a surprise to many of you that we didn't know each other for very long before we plan to get marry . What can I say - when you know, you know.

When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

I wanna marry you because the first time that I saw these hands, I could not imagine not being able to hold them. But mainly, when you love someone as much as I love you, getting married is the only thing left to do.

Azni.... I guarantee there will be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is gonna want to get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I will regret it for the rest of my life, because I know, in my heart, you're the only one for me.

When two people love each other, commit to each other, it has to be an act of will—a decision…You have to hang on to that decision and the choice to love each other even if it’s only by a thread.

Today on our engagement day witness by our families & friend again..

Nor Azni Binti Abdul Latiff... I have come here with a view to ask you would you be my wife, and I promise to love you, honour, cherish, in sickness and health, riches or poverty, and will forsake all others and cleave thee only unto you as long as we live.

Saturday, 22 December 2012

Continuing Professional Development

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.”
- Henry Ford

In our society, we often think of “learning” in very narrow terms: it’s what we do in school, and once we’ve got our college degree, the learning phase is over – it’s time to work.

Of course, things aren’t really that black and white: we carry on learning after we’ve left school, and not just in our careers but in every aspect of our lives. And learning often doesn’t equate to taking qualifications or passing exams. Approached the right way, learning isn’t a process of ticking boxes on a curriculum or course outline – it’s about exploration, growth and enrichment.

For me, the primary reason to keep learning new things is because I enjoy it. It’s not quite the same enjoyment that I get from watching a movie, and there are always frustrating and even miserable moments in learning anything new … but I’m happier in the long run.

If you take the time to consciously learn new things, you’ll find that you live life more deeply. Instead of chasing quick entertainment that fails to satisfy, you’ll have the pure pleasure of those ooo! moments when something finally clicks. The more you learn, the more you’ll be able to make connections between pieces of knowledge – and the more creative you’ll become.

If you feel like you don’t have the time, consider audio books. I use the Audible app on my smartphone and Laptop to listen to them. This allows me to listen to a book while I drive, walk, or when I am doing something that I don’t have to focus on.

Whatever way you choose to keep learning, do it with a keen attitude and a sense of its value to your overall growth. While keeping up-to-date with the skills you need for your career is important, don’t close your mind off to outside education. It will definitely help you down the road and give you confidence as you navigate the working world

Saturday, 15 December 2012

Tall Poppy & Bent Paddy

My mom used to tell me when I was young, “ Whatever you do, make sure you don’t get too proud.” It was a mantra used not by the old folks to young people, afraid they may forget their roots(with good intentions) but even by peers during school days. When someone did well, we assumed the person has now become proud. 

With that drumming into our young minds, we seldom flaunt our talents or gifts, afraid people may label us as “proud” people. Instead, we embrace average results and settled with mediocrity. We are programmed to reply, “No, I’m not that good lah” And we repeat that a hundred times! Until it had become part of us – self-fulfilled prophecy! Oh, how we celebrate mediocrity! Cos we are afraid if we come across as too good, we may be called “proud” or trying to show off.

And we brought this mentality to the workplace. We become like everyone else. We dare not perform too well less we’ll be labeled “si bodek”. So, we hide in a corner, give 70% of our effort and never our 100%. Again, mediocrity is to be celebrated.

There is a field of poppies and while all the poppies are generally the same length there are a few that outgrow the others. Those tall poppies are then cut down. I still don’t know why, I’m guessing it’s for aesthetic reasons that those poppies will ruin everything for the other poppies

In Australian English, tall poppies are usually individuals who, on the basis of unwarranted self-adulation, itself a consequence of success, amassed fortune or fame, have become targets for criticism; or, less frequently, individuals who, overcome by success, amassed fortune or fame, and on the mistaken assumption that they are above the law, have engaged in unlawful behaviour, only to find that, eventually, the law catches up with them as well.

Tall poppies could once expect to be cut down. This social leveling attitude went hand in hand with belief in concepts such as giving everyone an "a fair go". Tall poppy here doesn't mean you shouldn't excel or "rise above". It’s about the way you conduct yourself. What Australians actually despise is when a person achieves success and appears changed by it. When they act as if they are a step above everyone else and no longer equals.

I was sure to emphasize ‘genuine merit’ above because a tall poppy is one who excels, stands out amongst the competition, possess talent that the others do not have. I honestly believe that we have no idea what we’re doing by cutting the tall poppies.

In Malaysia, the nature of paddy in the field is difference. The more rice it contains, the more bent it is. This these elements that play a strong influence in shaping the traits and character of the Malay community. This Malay proverb reflects the philosophy of humility.

The meaning of the proverb is to remind us in our daily life, the more knowledgeable one is, the more humble one need to be. In fact, an intellect or wise man that remains humble is highly respected by the Malay community.

Saturday, 8 December 2012

Kelate Chipmunk

The Malay culture is a rich and romantic one which has interwoven into its fabric, threads of Thai, Indonesian, Indian, Chinese, Arabic and even Western cultures due to Malaysia's position along the ancient sea routes of trade.

A personal favorite of mine is an art form called "Dikir Barat" which is widely practice in the state of Kelantan. It is widely believed to have been introduced to Kelantan from adjacent southern Thailand. "Dikir" means a prayer or a ritual while "Barat" means west. Indeed Dikir Barat is a style of singing which is accompanied by an almost ritualistic chanting and southern Thailand lies to the west of Kelantan.

I even joined a club to learn how to sing Dikir Barat when I was in school but alas, that was many years ago and I am no longer able to remember enough to sing it. However, I thought you might like to hear how this art form sounds like.

I have chosen a song called "Anak Tupai" which means, "Young chipmunk". The song is about a young chipmunk with a bushy tail and empty stomach wandering about in search of food and enjoys the fruits from people's orchards. The villager set a trap for it and eventually poison it.  

The song used to satirize human behavior by linking it with the chipmunk which the natural habitat of animals sufficiently reliable in jump while sitting on a tree. It will jump from branch to branch and would just fall to the ground once in a while. Is suitable for the symbolic nature of human behavior, which can sometimes be cocky and arrogant.

It also has similarities with human behavior is often done evil and eventually they will not got away on their actions. This is due, their actions will be inhaled by people in the end even though they try to hide it.

Enjoy the video versions of the song. I should also mention that this is not in the formal Malay language but the colloquial dialect of the Kelantan state.

Tuesday, 4 December 2012

Six Million Dollar Man

My eyes wondered on a beggar who was asking for money as he was presenting himself to be disabled. This got me thinking. Who was the richest person on that busy street? 

Net worth is basically the assets (wealth), that one has, minus the liabilities (what he/she owes). I will let the picture do the talking

Most of us were using the assessed value of our home and property as an asset for calculating our net worth, and that pushed us well into positive territory overall. By including the value of our home as an asset, it was a relatively net positive worth.

But every time I calculated my net worth, I asked myself about the home and the automobiles. Could they actually be liquidated without really altering our life? Is it even realistic at all that we would just sell our house if we needed cash? 

Since cars are really just a depreciating asset, I’m going to stop tracking the values of them completely. I made the decision to stop counting the value of my home as an asset in my net worth calculations as it was still on mortgage anyway.

Our primary resident is an asset we need to use. It’s where we live. It’s something that would be very difficult to liquidate from our current position because it would require us to move elsewhere. Similarly, an automobile is something we need to use and to liquidate it would require us to make major life changes.

To put it simply, our home and our car aren’t liquid assets. Yes, of course, we could get cash value for them, but it would involve major life changes and significant effort.

Instead, they’re tools. They’re things we utilize to live our life. If we lost those tools, our lives would radically and severely change, something that wouldn’t happen with any other assets we hold.

So we just made a simple change. We’re no longer counting our “tools” – our not-very-liquid assets – in our net worth calculations, and that means we just dropped a significant amount from our net worth. And this put us right back in the negative. Our debts, including our mortgage, significantly exceed our other assets.

Perhaps one day I’ll be able to cash out the equity or have the mortgage paid off and be able to live rent-free, but in the meantime it just seems to be a bit of a distraction.

Saturday, 1 December 2012

Take a lead

Marriage is like Tango, It takes two to dance. The lady has her own moves and gentleman has his own moves. The gentleman take the lead and the lady surrenders to his leading in her lovely moves

The gentleman is not being the “boss” just because he leads but instead it is the lady who makes the choice to follow his lead. The gentleman proposes the step. It is the lady’s choice to accept by following. Now, to follow takes as much strength as to lead.

It cannot be done without trust between partners… But trust must to be earned.

If the lady allows the gentleman to lead, the lady trusting the gentleman... But more than that, the lady trusting herself.

The gentleman has the opportunity to use every bit of strength and skill you possess–not to dominate her–but to take her on a journey. It is a lot to ask.  If and how the gentleman take the journey–that’s entirely up to him.