About 2.5 million Malaysians aged 25 and above are unmarried. And there are more single men than women and “many cite financial problems as a reason”. And there could also be other reasons.
Marriage is a serious matter and if you aren’t ready, do not take the plunge. You can be in much trouble if you do. Many today are, and are seeking ways out. Do not be one of them.
A marriage needs full commitment. Some aren’t ready to commit as yet so they delay marriage. Some sadly do not marry at all.
Marriages must be sustained and improved upon. Society today acknowledges that keeping a marriage going requires skills that include communication, understanding, appreciating and accommodating different personalities, and understanding the process of marriage itself.
Contrary to the assumption that everything will naturally come together in a relationship, marriage takes work. It also needs support and advice from others.
Some wedding course before a wedding can highlight the strengths, weaknesses and uniqueness of each party, helping them to better understand their partner and their relationship.
Successful marriages are not “perfect” or “made in heaven”, but rather well managed. They accept the realities of day-to-day life, and work within them.
And there seems to be a phenomenon today that those who are in a marriage want out and those who are out want in. What a paradox!
And take this from me, loving someone forever is an ideal, and most it take a lot of commitments.
The saying is: Marriages are decided in heaven and made on Earth, meaning God planned the partners and the marriage is done on earth by man.
In the old days, marriages were fixed by parents who chose the partners, arranged the dates etc.
Back then, people used to get married in the early 20s. Their joint earnings were enough for house, a car loan and enough to bring up their kids. Maybe this was because it was much cheaper then.
Today, youngsters are too independent and parents have little or no say in their children’s marriage. The youths today prefer to enjoy life free of entanglement and give excuses such as financial problems; this could end up with them remaining single.
Marriage is always a gamble and never a bed of roses. Tolerance, cooperation and understanding between partners are necessary for a successful married life.
My advice to all of you that fall in that catagory “Go all out, find partner of your choice, get married. For men please be like Tun Nila Utama (P.Ramlee Musang Berjanggut) & and for ladies please kiss more frog"