Sunday, 31 July 2011

When Senior Vs Junior...

We all had these dreams, and then we got jobs to achieve those dreams. But we wanted more money, and we got rid of our dreams. You know, if your nine-year olds version  saw you guys the way you are, you'd get your butts kicked right now! ” – Quote from Adam Sandler in Mr. Deed (2002)

I just watched a Disney Movie title “The Kid” starring Bruce Wills as the main character as Russ Duritz who one day, when gets home he sees a shadow of a boy. Russ then asks the boy his name and finds out it's his own. Both begin comparing memories and scars and figure out that Rusty is Russ younger version of him.
Rusty then starts asking Russ things such as if he has a dog named Chester, whom Rusty has dreamed of owning, if he has become a pilot, and if Russ has a wife. Russ replies that he can't handle dogs with his constant traveling; that he is not a pilot but an image consultant, and that has no wife. Rusty tells him that he dislikes his future.

From that moment I started to think. What happen if my younger version seeing me now,  would the kid version of me is disappointed with the adult version of me?

Do you ever think back on your childhood? Think about all things you wanted to accomplish when you became an adult? Now that you’re an adult you realised that majority of things you were passionate about, just went out the window? I realized at certain age what we had dream of being slowly goes out the window when w enter real-life adulthood. As kids we knew what we wanted out if life, but as adults we just do what we have to do to survive and put childhood dreams on the back burner. I would wonder what the kid version of me would say about me now. I sat and thought about that long and hard and I know that wide-eyed dreamer of my former self would kick my ass if he knew the adult me reneged on all great thing he wanted to be without even trying.

As kid we show much passion when it comes to something we love. It could be something as simple as playing music or even sports. We eat, breath and lived for those things. Then we get older we get complacent with life. We don’t follow our passion, we think deep down we get little afraid to fail or we just chuck it all to childhood daydreaming. What if the one thing you desired to do never worked out? That’s when I think many of us give up and just do the norm.

Now I work... that’s it. I work because I have to. I’m not passionate about the job. I’m passionate that I can pay my rent every month. As kids we don’t know what happen when we actually do become adults. We can’t wait to grow up because we think “ When I grow up I can do anything I want” Sure you can go anywhere and stay out as late as you want, but you realise you did more fun things at 12 than you do as adult. Our kid version would be shaking their heads at us right now if they knew what we have become... BORING ASS ADULTS

So it is we’ve let ourselves down once we’ve gotten older; or it that kids who once were have no concept on what actually being a grown up is like? Either way the life that we imagined for ourselves doesn’t always happen the way we thought. With growth come responsibilities.

Sometimes I wish I can go back to when I was kid and talk to him and let him know that being an adult isn’t always about shits and giggles. To remember that dreams and aspirations that he has as a kid is something to be cherished because life doesn’t go the way you want it too. I would tell him stop trying to rush his age and enjoy being just a kid. If the kids we were knew exactly how challenging adulthood was they would probably cut us a little slack, or maybe they would tell us we’re not living at our full potentials we’re just being lazy. You know how blunt these kids are nowadays.

I have lost my “Mushiness” and I hardly know who I was when I got up this morning.

Note:- I hope that those politicians can ask themselves “Would my younger version would proud for what I have done?

Friday, 22 July 2011

Red Pill or Blue Pill?

In the movie Groundhog Day, in which Bill Murray played Phil Connors, an egocentric TV weatherman who grudgingly covers the annual Groundhog Day event in Punxsutawney.

The plot of the movie revolves around how Connors wakes to the same day, again and again and again. The town remains the same, the people identical to the day before. The strain drives him to numerous suicide attempts until one day, he decides to re-examine his life and priorities. The movie unveils how he struggles to find meaning and purpose in his life as he learns what works and what does not. He places all attention in altering his view of the world based on his own personal reality, as his external reality is fixed. He transforms his thoughts and values. He transforms what was the worst day of his life into his best day. The only things that change in this transformation are his thoughts and actions.

In reality, taking the red pill in life means approaching things in a way you weren’t expected to at first. They are all taking the red pill in some areas of their lives because they are doing new things every day, while growing and learning.

There are different ways you can take the red pill, and not all of them require doing something exciting that could appear in an action movie. Remember that to take the red pill in life, all you have to do is to consciously act in a way you weren’t supposed to initially.

If you are doing like everyone else is doing, there’s something wrong with you. because you are taking the blue pill and you are not pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Of course it’s not always convenient to take the red pill in real life, but if you want to grow in life, then the more you take of them, the better.
So do a favour to yourself. Take the red pill in your life, but do it with your head and your spirit, and you’ll reach unimaginable results.

Note:- Declare myself as red pill addiction person. Still overdose from my last pills.....

Saturday, 16 July 2011

The Worsley Redemption

Some of the best lessons I’ve learned about personal development come from a book that focus on business and leadership, called Good to Great. Author Jim Collins and his research team spent five years trying to identify the common factors that separated good (or briefly great) companies, from companies which were able to achieve and then sustain excellence for fifteen consecutive years or more. While I would highly recommend that you get your hands on this book and read it in its entirety, today I’d like to share a part of it that has stuck with me most: The Stockdale Paradox.

The Stockdale Paradox is named after admiral Jim Stockdale, who was a United States military officer held captive for eight years during the Vietnam War. Stockdale was tortured more than twenty times by his captors, and never had much reason to believe he would survive the prison camp and someday get to see his wife again. And yet, as Stockdale told Collins, he never lost faith during his ordeal: “I never doubted not only that I would get out, but also that I would prevail in the end and turn the experience into the defining event of my life, which, in retrospect, I would not trade.”

Then comes the paradox: While Stockdale had remarkable faith in the unknowable; he noted that it was always the most optimistic of his prison mates who failed to make it out of there alive. “They were the ones who said, ‘We’re going to be out by Christmas.’ And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then they’d say, ‘We’re going to be out by Easter.’ And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart.”

What the optimists failed to do was confront the reality of their situation. They preferred the ostrich approach, sticking their heads in the sand and hoping for the difficulties to go away. That self-delusion might have made it easier on them in the short-term, but when they were eventually forced to face reality, it had become too much and they couldn’t handle it.

Stockdale approached adversity with a very different mind-set. He accepted the reality of his situation. He knew he was in hell, but, rather than bury his head in the sand, he stepped up and did everything he could to lift the morale and prolong the lives of his fellow prisoners. He created a tapping code so they could communicate with each other. He developed a milestone system that helped them deal with torture. And he sent intelligence information to his wife, hidden in the seemingly innocent letters he wrote.

Collins and his team observed a similar mind-set in the good-to-great companies. They labelled it the Stockdale Paradox and described it like so:

You must retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties.
AND at the same time…
You must confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.

For me, the Stockdale Paradox carries an important lesson in personal development, a lesson in faith and honesty: Never doubt that you can achieve your goals, no matter how lofty they may be and no matter how many critics and naysayers you may have. But at the same time, always take honest stock of your current situation. Don’t lie to yourself for fear of short-term embarrassment or discomfort, because such deception will only come back to defeat you in the end.

Living the first half of this paradox is relatively easy, since optimism really isn’t that hard. You just choose to believe that it will all turn out for the best, and everything that happens to you is a means to that end. Simple as.

But optimism on its own can be a dangerous thing:

There’s no difference between a pessimist who says, “Oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t bother doing anything,” and an optimist who says, “Don’t bother doing anything; it’s going to turn out fine anyway.” Either way, nothing happens. – Yvon Chouinard

So you need to embrace the second half of the Stockdale Paradox to really make strides. You must combine that optimism with brutal honesty and a willingness to take action.

In The Shawshank Redemption is an allegory for maintaining one's feeling of self-worth when placed in a hopeless position. The integrity of Andy Dufresne is an important theme in the story line, especially in prison, where integrity is lacking.

Now of course, nobody likes admitting that they’re broke, that they’ve chosen the wrong career or that their marriage is falling apart. But admitting such truths is an absolute necessity if you want to grow and improve. It might feel like you’re taking a few steps backward by doing so, but you can view that retreat as the pull-back on a sling shot: you’re just setting yourself up to make significant progress down the road.

Note:- I think myself as " I am not handsome but sweet..  but 'bersyukur'"

Saturday, 9 July 2011

V for Vendetta


“Democracy is the only system that persists in asking the powers that be whether they are the powers that ought to be” Sydney J. Harris.

Reading the current politic in Malaysia, somehow remind me of V for Vendetta. The film had been seen by many political groups as an allegory of oppression by government. The beginning of V for Vendetta starts with an introduction to the real-life notorious 17th century British conspirator Guy Fawkes and his failed attempt to blow up Parliament. Having been caught and apprehended, Fawkes is hanged. A monologue tells us that Fawkes, like all true patriots, represented an ideal that could not be destroyed. It is this theme that gives purpose to the main character of V, who apparently desires to finish where Fawkes left off by blowing up Parliament.

Why Parliament?

Perhaps this suggests that Parliament is the problem. Parliament is foremost a symbol of democracy in the world.

The liberty of a democracy is not safe if the people tolerate the growth of private power to a point where it comes stronger than their democratic state itself. That, in its essence, is fascism - ownership of government by an individual, by a group.

Nowadays, we are supposed to replace governments with our votes. The part that the individual has in the electorate is supposed to protect him. However tendencies in democracies have allowed more and more to be handled by the government due to democratic legitimacy through election.

Bersih 2.0 rally for example is an effort to ensure the integrity of the electoral process. This initiative should by right be welcomed by the government as it would legitimise the elections which form the bedrock of a democratic government. This aim of the coalition is amply clear in its eight basic demands, which are to: clean the electoral roll, reform the postal ballot, use indelible ink, stipulate a minimum campaign period of 21 days, provide free and fair access to media, strengthen public institutions, stop corruption and stop dirty politics.

In regards to the government’s reaction to the Bersih 2.0 rally, which the coalition for free and fair elections has called for July 9, raises important questions about the state of civil liberties in the country and its implications for our democracy.

Looking from logic perspective, a government that wishes to be recognised as being rightfully elected would work very hard to ensure that the issues that have been raised by Bersih 2.0 are addressed, so that it would not be accused of winning the elections by unfair means. This simply means that the government needs to embrace electoral reform and seriously address the weaknesses that are currently causing doubts to be raised about the integrity and impartiality of its key institutions.

However, instead of being proactive and engaging its critics, the government has chosen to dismiss the efforts of concerned citizens groups to rectify the flaws in the election process. Worse still, it has chosen to crack down on anyone who is showing support for the demands of the Bersih 2.0 coalition.

Freedom is when the people can speak; democracy is when the government listens. Public confidence in the integrity of the Government is indispensable to faith in democracy; and when we lose faith in the system, we have lost faith in everything we fight and spend for.

Remember Abraham Lincoln once said Democracy is the government of the people, by the people, for the people”.

However the right of power via democracy does perhaps reduce government's fear of their people to such an extent that V's motto becomes relevant:

“People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people”

I felt the movie was very prescient to how the political climate is at the moment. It really showed what can happen when society is ruled by government, rather than the government being run as a voice of the people.

Note: Democracy consists of choosing your dictators after they've told you what you think it is you want to hear

Monday, 4 July 2011

How Kenny Rogers Saved My Career

“I had originally thought that a job at Starbucks might be below my abilities. But now i realized it might be  beyond them. This job could be a areal challenge for me - mentally, emotionally, and physically.”― Michael Gates Gill, How Starbucks Saved My Life: A Son of Privilege Learns to Live Like Everyone Else.

Did you know that Rod Stewart had football trials at Celtic and worked as a grave digger before starting his music career by singing on the streets across Europe? Or that Michael Dell’s first job was as a dishwasher at a Chinese restaurant earning US$2 an hour?

Like many people, I held some interesting jobs as a teenager and in college. Most of these jobs were mundane to the point of being boring. They seemed to me at the time to have in common only the fact that they were each menial, minimum-wage jobs.

I learned later that I was wrong. Each of these jobs offered valuable lessons and opportunities that I ignored -- lessons I've since learned could be obtained in any job, at any level!

Take, for example, my job at Kenny Rogers. I felt I was a good employee. I did what I was told to do and what I felt was expected in my job, which seemed to consist primarily of taking order or standing behind the counter preparing the mail.

One day, however, I was standing behind the cash register talking with another employee when the regional manager walked in the door. He glanced around the store for a moment, and then motioned for me to come with him down one of the aisles. Without saying a word, He then walked to the food preparation area, wiped down the counter, and emptied a full trash receptacle.

I observed all of this with curiosity, and it slowly dawned on me that he expected me to do all the things he was doing! This came as a complete surprise to me, not because any of the tasks he was doing was new (I had done them all before; for example, I would mop the floor and empty the trash every day before my shift was done), but because the assumption was that I needed to be doing these tasks all the time!

Well, nobody had ever explicitly told me this before! And even now it was unstated. In that unspoken moment, I learned a lesson about the world of work that would serve me for the rest of my life -- a lesson that not only made me a better employee, but also allowed me to get more out of every job and work  experience from that moment forward.

The lesson was that I needed to be responsible for my own work. I needed to accept a higher level of ownership for my job in which I held myself personally accountable for my actions. In short, I needed to focus on what needed to be done and not wait to be told what to do.

Once I grasped this lesson, jobs I had found mundane became much more fun and exciting to me. The more I focused on what I could do in the job, the more I was able to learn and accomplish.

I left the Kenny Rogers but I took something from that experience that shaped my life and career in a profound way. I went from being a bystander to taking charge of my work experiences. Part-time jobs and internships became opportunities to explore entire professions, and entry-level positions became portals for unprecedented opportunity and growth.

As I advanced to higher positions, I always tried to find opportunities to do what needed to be done. In fact, in every job, at every level, I saw chances to excel and make a difference -- not just for my employer, but for myself as well.

I came to the conclusion that every employee in every job needs to hear and believe this fundamental message: You can start to make a difference with your life today, in the job you currently hold, not the ideal job you hope you might hold someday in the distant future.

Go extra miles, "Please don't just do what your manager tell you: Do what needs to be done" that is secret of my success.

Note :- Still misses my job at Kenny Rogers washing dishes for 8 hours per day without to think about how to safe the company from "bankruptcy".